Anyone heard from Daveyo or did I just miss reading a post? I was just wondering how he is doing, a little concerned. I haven't been on much because I feel like i'm reliving the whole BC thing since Dennis passed away. But if I can help someone in someway, then it's all worth it. I'm still coping with his passing and it seems like the crying is more frequent. I feel like I can't listen to the radio, or watch TV without crying. Every song reminds me of him, certain tv programs, and then there's our dog Teddy, all he does is mope, wait and listen. He's breaking my heart. But, life goes on. I'm finally going back to work tomorrow so that should be good for my mind. I just wanted to stop in and say "Hi" to everyone and hope things are good........Mary
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Daveyo Where are you??
- By luvcntrym
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 12:44 pm · 17 replies
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- By Tagmike
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 12:48 pm
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Good to hear from you Mary, Sadness is unavoidable in what you have been through the past few months. Dennis is as close as your memories of him. No one is ever too far away in spirit. Its not the same as having his phsical presence but its not bad either. We Feel with and care for you. Our prayers and thoughts go out to you. Lots of Hugs
Mike
- By lsh
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 12:54 pm
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Mary,
One of my close friends lost her husband about a year ago. She found that going back to work and going to a support group at her church for people who had lost spouses were the two things that helped her the most. I can only imagine how hard this time must be for you. Prayers and supportive thoughts coming your way,
Lynda
- By Karego
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 12:58 pm
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Mary, we appreciate your 'stopping in'
We don't want to add to your sorrow, but we will still be a part of your journey. As you can, let us know how you are managing.
Karego
- By roadrunner
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 12:59 pm
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Hi Mary,
Yes,where is Davey,time for a hug an a squeeze for both of you,,,,
Work may be just the thing,for right now anyway,you have many friends there,,they will brighten your day,,,,wish we could help soften the evenings,,,,,,,the times you find hard to deal with,but know we are here and I was happy to see your post,still thinking of others,,,your such a special person,,,,,Ginger
- By Ciboney1
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 1:00 pm
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Mary:
I am hoping that you remember the good times and the good memories with Dennis, this will help you thru the sad times.. I know when I lost my parents very close together( 5 wks apart), if I remembered the good times when I was sad; I would began to smile at something funny and it did help me thru..It will take time....
I always remember seeing a pair of doves shortly after I lost them and it appeared to me that was my parents watching over me. My days began to improve a little at a time... I would have a bad day and soon would see a dove or a pair of doves and things began to improve..
To this day when things are bad or I feel I need approval from them(my Parents) yes I still need their guidance once in a while ....; low and behold most of the time they appear (the doves) from nowhere..Its is my sign they are o.k. and I will be to...
Take care and I am praying for you too .. Thanks for all the info you have contributed to many of us with over the last few months..
Stay in touch and know we are thinking you...
Arlene
- By joybob
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 3:11 pm
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Hi Mary great to hear from you. I don't know what happened to Dave, hopefully he is out living his life, he may not want a reminder at this point. Also haven't heard from the fellow in Maine I think with the little daughter Annebelle, Hope he is well, I wanted to send something to Annebelle but he never respnded to me. Mary you will be ok, it will take time. You just cnan't forget someone who was so important to you. Someday you will think of Dennis and smile. I couldn't listen to Phamton of Opera music for years after my sister died. She loved that song from show. She had it on a music box, and I kept rewinding it and playing it she loved it. Today I can listen to it. Dennis just went ahead of you, you will meet up again. God said it I believe it..that settles it! e mail me anytime joybobbev@aol.com. Joycee
- By Cheyenne
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 6:29 pm
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OK, Davey, I know where you live!
I have been in Providence , R.I., Boston, MA. Not unusual to be in traffic for 3 weeks in a row.
I'll see if I have his e-mail, or it may be in his profile. I'll check.
- By Cheyenne
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 6:35 pm
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I don't have his e-mail. I messaged him and told him BCAN has a warrant out for his arrest and he better check in.
- By cat22
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 6:36 pm
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Hi Mary. Good to hear from you. Sorry you are going through such difficult times. I hope we can help lift your spirits from time to time. Prayers to you...
Cathy
- By Cheyenne
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 6:55 pm
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Mary, I can't feel your hurt, but I think I can understand it. When Mom died almost two years ago my life stopped. Have not gone a day without crying. But I know she wants me to keep on going, so I will. One day not long after she died I asked God if she was OK, I had no doubt about her salvation anyway. The next morning as I go to my office front door the ruby red rose bush that I had planted nine years earlier had all white roses. Where I live rose bushes are pretty much in bloom all year. There were roses on it the day before. Then they were all white. I know it was Mom. Not long ago I asked Mom if I would be alright. The next day the same rose bush had only ruby red roses on it, her favorite color rose and also my favorite color rose. Not making it up to make you feel better, it's true.
I had a dog that got so depressed when it's sibling died I didn't know what to do. I called my vet, he said "you need to get a puppy or young dog, and quickly. Two days later I had a cysto scheduled, this was about 15 years ago. The office manager came over to me and asked how my dogs were. I told her what happened. She said well, I asked because I wanted to know if you wanted another Golden Retriever. I have a close friend she said who has to move and has two wonderful Goldens about 5 years old and they can't find a good home for them. Well I got these most gorgeous Goldens and that sparked life back into my depressed older Golden. I know having another dog is more work especially going back to work. I also know how it hurts you to see your dog like that. Mary, get another dog, a younger one, doesn't have to be a puppy. Your dog will come out of his depression, and it will help you too. Don't worry about all the fur in the house, I don't. Ask Arlene, she recently got Sophie, and is so glad she did. She posted above and has a picture of Sophie. Angels can take on any form Mary, Doves, dogs, cats, parakeets, etc. Please check in when you can. My prayers are always with you.
- By luvcntrym
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 8:03 pm
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Thank you everyone for all the kind words of comfort. It certainly helps. Cheyenne, I'd love another dog but its kind of out of the question for now. I hate leaving this one home all day while i'm at work as it is. Plus I don't trust him so I cage him all day long. I can't go anywhere for a long time because I can't see putting him in a kennel for more than a day. And it's all my fault because I treat him like a baby. I'm sure this will all take time and going back to work should take some of the stress off of me. I visit Dennis at the cemetary a lot and talk to him there. I just wish I could get a sign like you did. Maybe one day it will come. Thanks again everyone! You all are the best! And Daveyo, come out, come out, where ever you are!!....LOL
Mary
- By sunshine604
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 8:39 pm
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Hi Mary -
Good to hear from you - you are so strong to be out and doing things again. I'm sure it's not easy and you hurt every minute, but you are making the effort to work and do things again..The effort you are making inspires me.
Remember you have lots of friends here, and thanks for worrying about wayward Daveyo.
Eileen
- By daveyo
- Posted October 4, 2009 at 10:17 pm
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hi mary....
like i told you before , dennis can see and hear you...don't be afraid to talk to him....the answers will just appear differently...
i'm sure he's happy where he is and wants you to be happy where you are...
his body may be gone....but his soul still speaks to you...
if you really look hard, you will see he is reponding to you......little things, funny feelings...thats him.
- By luvcntrym
- Posted October 5, 2009 at 7:58 am
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Hi Dave....I believe you! I know he hears me when I talk to him. I think he sees me too. I have a fica tree that drops about 4-6 leaves everyday. Dennis used to get mad at me when I'd go to the casino and lose money. Well, I went to the casino the other day and lost. When I came home, there were about 25 fica leaves on my floor....Dennis was really ticked off!!...lol. His son wants his army dog tags. I searched and searched for 2 weeks and couldn't find them. I happened to go into the garage, opened a cupboard door(which I looked in before), and there was a green duffle bag right up front. Inside were the dog tags. I swear that duffle bag was not there when I looked before. Thanks Dave and stay well!
Mary
- By joybob
- Posted October 5, 2009 at 8:22 am
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Mary I knew I liked you...you go to casio's I do too and Bob doesn't like to go. So we keep it to a mimimun or I go with the girls, not a big spender $25 at slots, but fun for me. Glad we heard from Dave, I think he is settleing in his new life and sometimes it is better to step back and not be reminded of what we are going thru. Once you are back to work and in a new routine, you will feel better. You were great to Dennis and you should be proud of yourself. Now enjoy yourself a little. I always get a bunch of fresh flowers, that perks me up. Have a good week....Joycee
- By jj803
- Posted October 5, 2009 at 10:46 am
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Hi Mary,
You continue in our thoughts and prayers. Glad that Dennis is still giving you guidance. Best wishes,
JJ
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