Anyone with children

• By DebbieMc (Inactive)
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• October 7, 2012 at 10:41 am
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Are you a new Mom that is a brain tumour survivor?

My kids are 9 and 11

• By lee49
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• October 8, 2012 at 4:43 pm
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Eva
Make a bucket list of events and places you want to do with your child reguardless of their age. I started ours when my son was having open heart surgery at 7 months old. What made it more challenging was we were in the middle of the adoption process and his birth parents dropped off the face of the Earth. He is now 6 1/2 and we have discussed with him that my sickness at this time is tempoary and he can not use it as an excuss to not do his homework or turn it in on time. Have a deadine for some of the bucket list items so you can do them on the good days. Even if it is playing at the beach on a nice day. Take pictures and even write a short story to go with it. You are creating memorries that you and your family will be able to relive again in 10 years. No one can set a timelimit on your time here.

• By momsnelsen
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• October 9, 2012 at 10:16 am
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My girls are aged 8, 5, 3 and 1. Actually the 5, 3, and 1 year olds all have birthdays coming up. I wouldn't say that I have started any new traditions since my BT diagnosis (when the youngest was born). Instead, when I have the energy I make sure I spend as much quality time with them as possible. I cannot do everything we did before, but it isn't the amount of time but the quality of time.

I don't put things off as much as I did before because the BT definitely reminds us all that we just don't know what the future holds. For instance, after my diagnosis my older girls wanted to get their ears pierced. I had thought we would wait until they were 10, but instead I let them do that a year and a half ago. Even though my tumors are stable, it just wasn't an event I wanted to miss.

Being a new mom is a wonderful journey. Every parent takes a different path. Give your child all your love and do what you can, when you can.

Best wishes!
Susan

• By DebbieMc (Inactive)
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• October 10, 2012 at 8:20 am
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I really want to get photo books made. My tumour is stable but I feel the need to organize our photos so that the good times are remembered. Me and the kids can do this together.

I have a couple of people hired who pick my kids up from school and take them to activities but I realized I had stepped back too much. Now I only get help 2 days a week and it is so much better. My kids want to be with me not someone else. Even on days when I am tired we can find things to do together.

• By lnrd
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• October 10, 2012 at 9:15 am
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Sorry, I'm a Father...but here are some of the things my Wife and I do.

9 year daughter and 15 week lil boy.

- Turn off the television at dinner and talk to each other. Though our daughter disliked it at the beginning, she talks to us. We don't want to be those parents that ever say, "she was a good kid, what happened?". It might take them awhile, but after awhile they will talk. Our daughter talks and eventually smiles in the end. Plus, she finishes dinner with Ma & Pa, cuz it takes her awhile to finish if we're watching television. Over all, talk to your children. I'm a math tutor, side job, I've come to see that all of my students have guardians/parents that don't talk to them.

- Children get bored on road trips, my wife and I started a Alphabet game: we go through the alphabets picking various subjects, i.e. Animals: Daughter starts, Aligator, Mommy next, Bat, Daddy Next, Cat...etc. Till you get to Z. After a few tries, then make it more challanging, our last game/trip our topic was Fictional Animals (Unicorns, Smurfs, etc.) Mommy and I had to go home to verify some of the characters our daughter was reference by having her show us, she enjoyed that. Or pick objects you see on the route in Alphabetical order. Ex. Ashalt, Bus, Clouds, etc., Endless topics.

- We just recently started a "Word of the Week" at home, Dictionary placed next to a marker board. One of us places a word on the Marker board along with the definition. During the week, if either of us use the WORD OF THE WEEK, we get a quarter in our jar. A the end of the week, our daugther checks who has the most quarters, to see who wins. Who ever has the most, gets to use it all at the arcade to play games, if you have an arcade in your town. Mommy and I could win, but we encourage our daughter with the new word, so she's winning.

- Put your Ipad/cell phone down and spend time with your children, every day is the only day they will be at that age, cherish it.

- Let them "fall down" every so often, let them learn to get up by themselves. All while they are still young, so they know how. Don't do everything for them, let them learn. Our daughter, at 8 years, she baked an entire cake for me last year for my birthday. She operated the entire oven, baking, mixing dough, etc. by herself. All with Mommy's supervision after WE BOTH told our duaghter, to NEVER operatate the oven without either of us here. To see her smile after she made the cake, was the best present ever!

Just a few ideas......................of our little world.

Our littles one, just discovered how to role over. Duct tape is his friend now. I'm only kidding about the duct tape.

Have FUN!