My mom has AD and has been in a nursing home for two months. She had told me that if she couldn't be at home, this place would be the place she would want to be. Now I get phone calls almost daily asking what's up and when am I picking her up. It has now escalated to why did you put me here, you are supposed to take care of me, I took care of you for 50 years. Please note that she lived in an apartment in our business for 33 years. Yes she helped us out, but we bought her out of the business over 20 years ago. I have been married almost 40 years, and we have been 'taking care of her' since my father died 38 years ago.
Any thoughts on the daily come get me calls would be helpful. The guilt is difficult, but I know deep down that she is safe at the nursing home and being well taken care of. I visit once a week, as the nurses and my own doctor suggested.