My wife and I are living with her parents. Her father has dementia. Her mother has Parkinsons, but her mother is early stages -- still pretty functional.
I'm wondering if anyone has a good tip about how to get people to take a shower. Phil denies that there is an issue with taking a shower. He says it's not a problem, but then he doesn't do it. Constant reminders serve only in causing him to get more stubborn about NOT taking a shower. He wants to do it on his terms and at his time. He is not incontinent, but does have some issues with that from time to time. He was really starting to stink and the house is starting to stink. It has been 14 days. The last several days have produced several battles about him taking a shower. Fortunately, he took a shower this morning, which makes me think that perhaps he can still remember that it was an issue these past few days. I don't really know what he remembers and what he doesn't and this seems to change from day to day. We are coping with other issues fairly well at the moment, but I would appreciate any good tips that people have to share about how to encourage folks to take a shower.
Thanks.




They become very afraid of water, it will not get any better unfortunately. I suggest your mother-in-law purchase the bath clothes which will allow you to keep him clean without water.
My mom is is the absolute final stage now... she almost took 2 aides out when they went to shower her. They will not shower her anymore. So they are using these full body wipes.
My sister found that you can order industrial strength diapers, bed-sheet protectors, etc. through Internet and they are more heavy-duty than what you purchase at Cosco or Target.