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• By laststage
• Reply 3375029
• September 14, 2012 at 12:53 pm
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How old is your mom? If hospice is involved, please listen to them, they know best and are wonderful.
Same this is going on with my mom right now... I flew to where she is to keep them from putting even an IV in. No tubes what so ever. I would never allow in a pic line. My mom has living will; no tubes means not even an IV.

However, my mom is 88 last stage of Alzheimer's; if she were in her 60's or didn't have Alzheimer's my reply would be different.

• By CajunLady51
• Reply 3375346
• September 14, 2012 at 3:06 pm
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My mother was 87 years old and in a nursing home due to a stroke and broken hip. They wanted to put in a pic line but my mother had always indicated she did not want anything to sustain her life. She died with dignity the way she and God wanted her to go. Also I had a mentally retarded brother age 43 who had a pic line put in. He lived misserably for 4 day onl and then died anyway. I think it would have been better just to let him go since there was no chance of improving. He was also physically handicapped. The doctors don't always tell you everything. They're in business to save lives and make money for themselves and the hospitals. Hospice is the way to go. They believe in letting the patient die with dignity and go comfortably. Good luck with your decision.

• By MAW12
• Reply 3375566
• September 14, 2012 at 4:30 pm
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I am so sorry to hear of this. However, I would listen to Hospice as well. My Mom who is 90 and has a living will. I would never do anything to prolong her life, as I know this is not what she wants. She had open heart surgery at the age of 85 and she was hoping that she would not survive. When she woke up in intensive care the nurse had on white scrubs. She asked them if she was in heaven and now at the funeral home. She was ready then and I know I would never go against her wishes.

The facility where my Mom is told me back in July that she was not swallowing food. So they put her thru therapy and now have someone sit with her to help her eat.

Please think long and hard about this decision. I agree with both of the above responders. They (doctors and hospital) are only out for one thing and that is profit.

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

• By Dubbie42
• Reply 3379854
• September 16, 2012 at 11:37 am
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Yes, since she is in hospice, listen to them. Let her go with dignity, no feeding tubes, etc. Why prolong her life? I'm not sure I agree that doctors and hospitals are only out for profit, but I do believe they sometimes keep a patient alive when the person should be allowed to slip quietly away. Maybe it's the Hippocratic Oath, I don't know. But hospice is there to make her passing away as easy and painless as possible. Listen to them and your own heart. You are doing your mother no favors to extend her life in this way. My prayers for you.

• By VAE
• Reply 3385554
• September 18, 2012 at 11:36 am
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I agree with everyone if your mom is older and is only existing that is no way to prolong life. My mom is miserable and wishes she would just die....I keep telling her mom I can't do anything about that you are ok for now. When something happens to her next I will call and talk with hospice though because she does not want her life prolonged and she does have a living will.