Help!

• By shawneemissy
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• October 25, 2012 at 10:56 am
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I have been dealing with my mother and my father who has a heart condition and my daughter is developmentally delayed, so I understand alot of what you are dealing with. My advice is when you can and the time wont be much, but just find a quiet spot and just breath. It isnt a lot but I find that just standing on my deck and looking at the mountains when I can find a min. and just appreciate the view and the quiet helps me a lot. Just having someone here that listens to me and lets me vent helps a lot also. I know its not much but sometimes I just want to scream but I have found that being in a quiet spot helps me a lot its not much but it does help me recharge for the next little while. I hope that you have a good day and try to relax when you can,

• By madmommic
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• October 26, 2012 at 10:02 pm
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You are carrying such a load! It makes mine feel very light comparatively. I am adding you to my prayer list for caregivers. May God continue to give you the strength to handle all that you have to do.

• By martaPR
• Reply 3492829 · In reply to 3492733 by madmommic
• October 26, 2012 at 10:54 pm
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I thank you very much and you know what? prayer is the best thing to do and I really appreciate that you will keep me in yours, I pray every night and talk to god hoping that he would give me ideas and suggestions as how to go about with my dad but maybe I need to have more faith before he can hear me.

• By martaPR
• Reply 3492845 · In reply to 3487945 by shawneemissy
• October 26, 2012 at 11:02 pm
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I really appreciate your suggestion but I live in a building of 10 families, all I see from my porch or windows is other buildings, I wish had a place where I could enjoy watching the stars, mountains or nature for all that matter but I don't, you are blessed to have all this, wish I was in your shoes. thanks a lot for replying. I really appreciate your ideas.

• By gatecity
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• October 26, 2012 at 11:18 pm
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i hate that you have so much on you! Is there anyone who can help you with some of the appt. Does your dad qualify for any
medicare help. I don't know if it still available but used to be that medicare would pay for a cab to and from medical appts.
If you have any family that could take dad to some of his appts. would be a great help.
If you go to church, you could see if you could fine someone to come sit with everyone for awhile so you can go out and just be
by yourself for a time.
Remember God doesn't give us anymore than we can handle..
I wish I had some great words of wisdom but I don't. Does your husband help? He could always watch them some time during
his days off and give you some breathing room. He is a father and he should take some of the job off of you. There is no rule
that says he can't help even when he doesn't want to. Remind him that he is responsible for the kids and he gets out of the
house just by going to work and that you never get to go anywhere alone.
Take care and I hope you get some time to yourself