My mother was remarried 3 years ago at age 74. 2 years ago I found out that social services has been called on her for being lost in her condo complex. I asked both her and her husband about this but both denied anything was wrong and told me it was a false report. 6 months ago my mother called me telling me her husband was beating her but she also though she was in a different state than she was. At that time her husband told me she has Alzheimer's, that I should only let her call me, I should talk to her about anything stressful etc. The problem is I have no other proof anything is wrong with my mother, when I ask her how she is, she says everything is great the doctor says nothing is wrong. I don't know if my mother has Alzheimer or if she married and abusive man who is lying to me. Do I ask my Mother straight out if she has Alzheimer's? Her husband says never to ask her that as she will go crazy and take him days to calm her down. What do I do? who do I believe? If I ask My Mom and she says she doesn't have Alzheimer, Do I write a cease and desist letter to her husband telling him to stop these lies and then wait to see if my mother then will admit this or not. I can say from my prospective, Mom's memory is getting bad, I take her to wall-mart and she can't remember why we are there, asked over and over what we are doing there. she doesn't remember conversation's we have had, she has lately been asking for my "Email phone number" but she doesn't use a computer. I see obvious signs of something going on. There is also the point that Mom is wealthy and her new husband was living in an old travel trailer previous to marrying her. If anyone could give me a bit of advice it would help, I am exhausted.