A good thought for today

• By Lakegirl2
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• September 27, 2012 at 6:26 pm
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Well said!

• By MAW12
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• September 27, 2012 at 8:47 pm
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Oh boy, do I agree this is well said. Thanks for that.

• By leighf
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• September 28, 2012 at 12:56 pm
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So true.

• By harry794
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• September 29, 2012 at 4:41 pm
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hi to all out there- just like to say that its never nice to watch the ones we love change and sometimes beyond recognition it seems- however i would like you all to remember something- in spite of what dogma or religious beliefs some of you may have always remember that this life is not the be all and end all- in fact this existence of ours here on this side is only a small part of the picture and that when we pass over to the spiritual we go back to our natural home- this is not our natural home- we are spirit beings and as such we are only here for a purpose and that purpose is to learn and improve- no one really dies- your loved ones passed still see us but they are on a higher vibratory plane thats all- a plane were we all must aspire to- whether we believe it or not- when you have to endure the changes in your loved ones through this hideous disease as i have my self just try and remember that your loved one will never be lost and that we will all be together again at some point in the future- and even though it may seem that our loved ones are not the same people let me just say that they are never far from what they were its just that they sometimes have difficulty in showing this to us- i reiterate no one is lost or forsaken- we are all part of this learning curve that we are all apart of- no aspect of anything ever goes by without making changes in all of us- changes that usually make us better people- because when we know what its like its only then we know how others feel- we are all in it together as they say- this existence of ours is just a part- a part in which we must all surely learn lessons- and learn them well- i know only too well what its like to watch these changes in a loved one and think that is so unfair- but this is only a part of the play that we must act out- our loved ones too- be kind to each other and remember you are not alone and no matter what- nothing lasts forever good or bad- take heart- i don,t get on here very often but i like to give a bit of reassurance now and again if i can- love you all- harry

• By cmn1 (Inactive)
• Reply 3418156 · In reply to 3416927 by harry794
• September 30, 2012 at 8:56 am
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Thanks, Harry, for the encouraging words you've given.

• By harry794
• Reply 3419496 · In reply to 3418156 by cmn1
• September 30, 2012 at 6:01 pm
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hi cmn1- thanks for your response- i would like to tell a whole lot more but however i think with the constraints of this site it would not be a good idea- but rest assured in time everything will become apparent- even the situation as is now- do also consider this your loved one can subconsciously pick up on your state of mind whether this be depression - anger - sadness or any of the other wide ranges of emotions that we will go through during these periods- this in turn will have an effect on them- and indeed will make a difference in the attitude they then radiate back to us- it is not that complex to get your head round if you just think about it- try and stay as positive as possible- it might help if you stand back and view the situation as if it were happening to someone else- which of course it is all over the world- do be of good cheer this will not last forever- nothing ever does- and remember this also that when your loved one eventually passes over they will be viewing you and the rest of the family from a vantage point- and there will be no hiding any emotions from them- never be afraid that they do not know how much you love them- they will know instinctively- everything is energy you see including thoughts- one day at a time plus staying positive and knowing you are not alone will surely see you through this, fondest thoughts to everyone- luv-harry

• By MAW12
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• October 1, 2012 at 4:15 pm
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Hi Harry,

Thanks for those wonderful words in your two comments. I as well agree that our loved ones that have past can see us everyday and I believe they watch over us.

I have a very positive attitude when I am with my Mom, as I know if I was upset it would make her the same. So I hold it in until I leave her. If, I must cry I do it in my car before I even leave the parking lot.

Thanks for your sharing and enjoy seeing you on this site.

• By harry794
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• October 1, 2012 at 5:37 pm
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HI CMN1- YET AGAIN THANKS FOR YOUR REPLY- TELL YOU THE TRUTH I LIKE COMMUNICATING WITH OUR FRIENDS THE OTHER SIDE OF THE POND AS IT WERE BECAUSE WHERE I COME FROM QUITE A LOT OF PEOPLE SEEM TO BE SUFFERING FROM THE SAME PROBLEM- AND THAT IS STUPIDITY AND IGNORANCE - MOST PEOPLE OVER HERE DON,T BELIEVE IN ANYTHING UNLESS THEY CAN SIT ON IT - EAT IT- OR WATCH IT ON TV- MENTION ANYTHING ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE OTHER THAN THIS LITTLE EXISTENCE OF OURS SUCH AS AN AFTER LIFE OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT AND THEY WOULD SEND FOR THE MEN IN WHITE COATS- TRULY PATHETIC- GIVE ME THE AMERICANS EVERY TIME- IF I WERE YOUNGER AND IN A DIFFERENT SITUATION THAT,S WHERE I WOULD BE- BY THE WAY I AM FROM BIRMINGHAM ENGLAND NEAR BIRMINGHAM AIRPORT- GETTING ON IN YEARS BUT STILL GOT MORE GO THAN ANYONE ROUND HERE- ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE UNDER 30- HAHA- YES ITS NICE TO HEAR THAT WHAT I SAY RINGS TRUE WITH YOU- AND I GUESS MANY MANY OTHER AMERICANS- REGARDING YOUR MOTHER- YOU SAY THAT YOU HOLD YOUR FEELINGS IN TILL YOU GET TO THE LOT- I KNOW IT MAY SEEM LIKE A TALL ORDER AT THE MOMENT BUT THE IDEA IS TO TRY AND GET SO POSITIVE THAT YOU DO NOT NEED TO DO THAT EITHER- MAY SEEM IMPOSSIBLE AT THE MOMENT BUT REMEMBER YOU ARE STILL RADIATING THOSE VIBES - ITS GOT NOTHING TO DO WITH THE VISUAL WHAT SO EVER- ITS THE TYPE OF ENERGY THAT YOU EMIT THAT MATTERS- DO DO TRY TO GET THIS ATTITUDE IT WILL ALSO ENABLE YOU TO COPE MUCH EASIER AND IT WON,T BE SUCH A TIRING ORDEAL- AND I THINK WE ALL KNOW HOW TIRING IT CAN BE- PSYCHOLOGICALLY IT TAKES IT OUT OF YOU NO END- YOU OF COURSE KNOW THIS ONLY TOO WELL- I MY SELF COULD NOT FALL ASLEEP AT THE TIME BECAUSE I KNEW THAT MY MOTHER WOULD HAVE ANOTHER FALL - AND LOSING MY FATHER TO CANCER AS WELL WAS ABSOLUTELY IMPOSSIBLE TO COME TO TERMS WITH- HE WAS ONE OF THESE VERY ACTIVE MEN WHO HELD TWO JOBS TILL HE WAS 40 AND STILL NEVER STOPPED- AND TO WATCH A MAN LIKE THAT GO DOWN TO NOT BEING ABLE TO GET TO THE BATHROOM EVEN IS SOUL DESTROYING- WHAT I SAY TO EVERYONE IS THAT IF YOU ARE LUCKY ENOUGH TO HAVE 1 OR EVEN 2 PARENTS WITH BOTH FEET FIRMLY ON THIS SIDE- SHOW THEM HOW MUCH YOU APPRECIATE THEM NOW FOR LATER ON WILL BE TOO TOO LATE OK- THANKS AGAIN FOR YOUR KIND WORDS. LUV 2 ALL- HARRY

• By MAW12
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• October 2, 2012 at 6:19 pm
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Hi Harry,

You're response was to me MAW12 (Mary Ann) I live in St. Louis, Missouri. I have a cousin that just moved from New York to London, across the pond as you so delightfully stated. That is really neat expressing it that way, that doesn't make it seem so far away. I am glad that you like communicating with us non Brits. I will have to requested you be one of my friends.
I have always believed in the after life. When my sister was ill with breast cancer, about a year before she passed away, I went and visited her while in the hospital. Right after I got there and gave her a big kiss and a hug, I sat down in a chair that had an empty chair next to me. While I was sitting there, my sister looked at me and said "Aren't you going to say Hello? I said I already did say Hi and gave you a kiss & a hug, she said No, not to me but to Grandmother who is sitting in the chair next to you! My Grandmother had been deceased for over a good 30 years. So needless to say, I did not freak out and just looked at the chair and said Hi Grandmother. How are you and Grandfather (who was also deceased about 40 yrs) doing? My sister told me that Grandmother and Grandfather are both doing well and waiting for us to come home. From that day forward I have always believed.

Now when I go and visit Mom, it has not been as hard as it use to be. She was in a lovely Assisted Living facility and that place closed down this past April. So when Mom was moved to the new place, of course with dementia, it confused her greatly. After only 1 1/2 days in assisted living they moved her to Memory Lane as she was setting off all the door alarms. The next day when I went to see her she was crying, telling me that she was trying to be a good girl and just find her room. It has now been almost 6 months since then & she has adjusted quite well. She has not improved at all but gotten worse. She was just put on a puree diet as she would not swallow, or she was what you call pocketing the food in her mouth. Last week when I saw her she was so full of grins when she saw me, but several hours later was mad at me. You just have to let that all roll off your back as they say over here.
Sorry to here of the loss of your Father. I as well lost mine about 10 years ago. Not easy but time heals all wounds. I am not sure if you are a reader, but I have a great book to suggest. It is called "The Shack" by William Paul Young. It is very good and very moving. If you read it let me know what you thought of it.
So good to have this chat, and hope to talk to you again my friend.

MAW12 (Mary Ann)

• By harry794
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• October 2, 2012 at 10:35 pm
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MAW12- thanks for the reply- i have always believed in things (so called) paranormal- but really they are perfectly normal its just that science cannot detect most of the nuances in this field- its a bit like looking for a gas leak with a light meter- (never shows) i don,t think that science will ever totally grasp it because where where science is concerned with material and matter- the other side is none material and anti matter- (spiritual if you like) i too am a man of science but i have the good sense to know that man has a spiritual side as well as a physical side and science is ill equipped to detect the former- sure it knows there something that it cannot explain but its not even firing on half a cylinder so i think it will take forever for it to get the picture even half right- (if at all) however back to something similar - my father died clinically of a heart attack years before he actually died- his heart stopped and they were giving him resuscitation- and while he was clinically dead he said that he was going down a tunnel towards a bright light (sounds familiar) and when he was half way down this tunnel he heard a voice say that it is not your turn yet and you must go back- well this was 17 years before he actually passed away- well my father was like so many people over here- he didn,t believe in anything- he used to argue with me and tell me it was all a load of rubbish till he had his own out of body experience that day he died briefly- he said that he could clearly see the people giving him rescus- now the sceptics say that we see what we want to see on death or near death experiences but my father didn,t believe in any of it but he still had the same tunnel and light experience and not to mention the viewing what was going on from a vantage point just above- if the sceptics were right then my father should have seen nothing at all because he didn,t believe in anything right- well that shot their little theory down in flames- but me personally i have always believed that we come back to the physical more than once and in some cases many many times- i won,t go into the whys and where fores of it all unless you want me to but i could because i have studied this phenomena for decades- and to tell you the truth when i was a young lad i wanted answers to questions that mere man made religion couldn,t answer- i eventually saw through that charade- i could tell so much of the other side and the meaning of life and all aspects there of but this is not the site for that and as such to avoid offending the moderators and none believers i think i will keep the proverbial lid on- apart from to say that no one need fear dying because no one ever dies and when we cross over the last place we want to be is on this side- however reincarnation does occure but at a specific time and place and only when the time is right- i hoped you liked this inside info because i thought it relative to what you yourself experienced with the so called empty chair- by the way so many people have smelt the perfume of a loved one recently passed- this has happened to me and also the lady next door after we lost our mothers at different times- i smelt my mothers perfume on my landing- a friend of the family who lives with us smelt his mothers perfume here when she passed and the brother of the lady next door came over and smelt their mothers perfume and he said moms here again- its their way of trying to let you know that they are still around and ok- any way i think we will leave it there for now- so mind how you go and above all stay positive- by the way why are most brits not like batteries ? because they don,t have a positive side- xxxx

• By MAW12
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• October 3, 2012 at 7:31 pm
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Hi Harry,

Had a busy day and just getting to my e-mails. It sounds like you are a man of science. My grandson loves science and social studies which I think is great for a 4th grade.

I as well believe in the light at the end of the tunnel. I too would love to hear your info on phenomena and coming back in physical more then once. It sounds interesting.

I as well believe that our loved ones that have passed on come back from time to time to visit us. My daughter has a spirit that is in her apartment. She said it is my sister, as my sister was her godmother. I seem to believe her as this spirit knew things that my daughter did not and called me and asked me it it was true and it was.

Take care and will talk to you later.

• By harry794
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• October 3, 2012 at 9:51 pm
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hi maw12- yet again thanks for getting back- you say you would like to know more but it would be impossible to cram 30 years into a single message- also this is not a paranormal site however i can assure you that we quite often come back- theres the true story of a woman in hospital for a routine operation but things progressed in such a way that she ended up dying in hospital- anyhow the story goes like this she wakes from sleep (but i think she had started to pass over and came back) and she calls for a nurse who never heard her cries so she starts screaming and shouting till someone eventually heard- a nurse eventually arrives and asks her whats the matter she says that theres a man in the next ward who desperately needs assistance but the nurse says that she had just checked that ward and everything was ok- well she starts shouting again till the nurse promised her that she would go and look- when the nurse got there she found that the fella in question had come unplugged from a machine he was hooked up to and the nurse was only just in time to save this fella- well she wondered how this woman could have possibly known that this man needed help- anyway she went back to thank this woman but by the time she had got back to her she had passed over her self- so it would appear when she left her body the first time she saw the problem this man had and came back briefly to alert the nurse and then continued to cross over her self- there are many stories that would no doubt send a chill down your spine- its amazing because we are talking about a perfectly natural phenomena here but a lot of people don,t believe- i suppose one reason is because science doesn,t really have much of an angle on it yet- (if ever) to proceed the other side or to give it its correct name the astral plane consists of many levels these levels are gravitated to by any given individual who aspires to learn and improve and move on and gain even greater knowledge- its not all dark and miserable over there you know- the spirits tell us that there,s always things to do- one of which is to welcome those we know who have just passed over and to reassure them that everything is going to be alright- plus teaching children who for whatever reason have passed over early- painters still paint musicians still make music for instance this is born out by the spirits that have communicated through mediums- the actress shirley mc claine says that under hypnosis she has been regressed back int many many previous lives- there was a nice looker for you in her day- i believe doris day still carried her hour glass figure through her sixties- however i am getting carried away now- thats my earthly side coming through again wow---- seriously though theres not just doom and gloom to look forward to- i am not saying look forward to dying because we also have to make the most of this life first but its nice to know that your phone doesn,t come permanently off the hook or that of your loved ones especially- all of which we see again- so take heed stay good and above all keep a positive mind- things really aren,t that bad its just at the time it looks that way- love to all as usual stay groovy- bob

• By MAW12
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• October 4, 2012 at 11:27 am
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Thanks Harry/Bob for all of that in site. Don't worry to much about me as I always have a positive outlook on life most of the time. It is only down once in a while. Stay groovy yourself.

MAW12