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Trying to stop drinking and find friends online I can chat with about my problem w alchohol
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- By johnp
- Posted January 7, 2009 at 11:30 pm · 13 replies
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- By Peter
- Posted January 8, 2009 at 12:09 am
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johnp --
Welcome! I hope you find the support you're looking for! Hopefully we can help.
Forgive my curiosity, but I'm wondering what you've tried in the way of stopping, and why you think you should. (Not that I doubt you, I'm mainly trying to better understand where you're coming from.)
Pete.
- By deebelle
- Posted January 8, 2009 at 8:52 am
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Best thing is to find some meetings to attend. Pull up Alcoholics Anonymous on your computer and they will have a meeting list for the city and state you are in.
If you really want to get well, you can't do it completely on-line.
So are you really ready to stop drinking or are you just toying with the idea.???????...because its all, or nothing..no in between!
Dee
- By jaynesworld3
- Posted January 9, 2009 at 10:57 pm
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I would love to chat about this topic. Ihave been on and off the wagon for 3 years and this year i have been clean for 9 days
- By johnp
- Posted January 9, 2009 at 11:20 pm
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9 days is good i went 3 months last winter with only having a few in those 3 months wish i could stop totally forever the guilt really sucks
- By jaynesworld3
- Posted January 9, 2009 at 11:23 pm
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I would rather talk on line for support.
- By jaynesworld3
- Posted January 9, 2009 at 11:29 pm
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I use to tell people in my group that I would never ever drink again. I didn't for 18 months. Never say never. take one day at a time. I'm detoxing by myself and it's hard.I'm doing it though.I have to believe in myself and nobody else. I had to stop talking to certain people cause they drink and i don't need the influence. You have to stop for you and nobdy else
- By Peter
- Posted January 11, 2009 at 11:51 am
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John --
You mention feeling guilty -- "wish i could stop totally forever the guilt really sucks" -- and I'm not clear why you feel guilty.
I hope it's not because of the alcohol. Put another way, the feeling of guilt makes sense when a person feels that they have done something wrong. But alcoholism is a disease, NOT a moral failure. This is a fight for your life, not a moral situation at all.
Alcoholism is strange in that it can seem like you are in control, while you're not, and since you know on some level that drinking is killing you, you really shouldn't drink, blah blah blah, that might seem like a personal failure... And it might be, if you were in control, but you're not. Alcohol is.
The only hope for recovering is to stop drinking completely, which will eventually quiet the demon somewhat.
- By CJA
- Posted January 12, 2009 at 6:02 pm
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For me I had to realize that I was never in control when it came to alcohol. The alcohol won everytime.
We fight a daily substance abuse and that's the thruth. So put your guilt away and replace it with motivation. Ask yourself how much better would you feel alcohol free?
There's just no easy way around this fight, so just keep your hed up and keep moving forward and put that guilt away. It only weighs you down. Start telling yourself you can do this. Try meetings and keep in touch with someone that is fighting like you.
Together we are better than we are alone.
Good luck and I hope to talk with you again real soon.
Hugs,
CJ
- By mygirls
- Posted July 9, 2009 at 8:41 pm
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I am so scared I need support. Can we help each other? Please respond. XOXO
- By Tag
- Posted August 22, 2009 at 9:24 pm
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hi johnP. i see that later down the page your are not drinking in July and you weren't drinking in January, Have you been sober these past 6 months, How? if not what happened to bring you back to alcohol?
- By Tag
- Posted August 22, 2009 at 9:35 pm
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jaynesworlds3, Where are you? Are you Sober was chatting online enough, did you take Deebelle's advice and start going to meetings. Or are you back looking for the next high. Its easy on the internet to not look someone in the eye and say "I'm sober" its a hell of lot tougher to do that in a meeting with folks who have all been where you are. I'm jumping to conclusions. Maybe lady Jayne You have been alcohol free for 6 months. but where are you? Are you in a place where you can help the next alcoholic or are you on line somewhere. Sorry I think I've been away from meetings to long also.
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