Does sex make you sick? Nausea and vomiting afterwards?

I know it's blunt and may be a risqué topic, but I'm curious if anyone else is having this problem. I have idiopathic gastroparesis. I've always had this happen.. If I have intercourse, either a day or 2 days later I'm in an episode..I call my spells episodes because the vomiting and abdominal pain goes on for about 4-6 days. I have to be hospitalized with IV fluids and pain and nausea medicine until it subsides. Is anyone having the same problems? Any advice? Should I just be abstinent? Or should my bf be uh slower, gentler? help!

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I can't say I have that problem with sex but I do find it interesting that you go through "episodes" for 4 to 6 days. I also get these "episodes" that last about the same amount of time that usually occur once every month or two. I've tried everything to figure out if there is a trigger but have been unsuccessful. Does this happen every time you have sex? If it does then I'd stop immediately. Four to 6 days in a hospital doesn't seem worth it to me. It also may just be a coincidence as I've had many theories over the last few years that never really panned out. Good luck to you.

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My abdomenal pain has definitely worsened after sexual intercourse. It is a shame though because sex should be a pleasurable experience and I find myself dreading it sometimes because of the after affects. I can't say my nausea and vomitting got worse but definitely the pain. It is a noticable increase in pain to the point where it hurts to stand up and my boyfriend notices and feels bad for putting me through the pain. Anyway I have found that different positions cause different degrees of pain. I now prefer to be on top where I am in control of the depth of penetration and can control the thrusting. I would never think of or advise you to remain abstinent. I think we all need the intimacy of a lover. Plus it sounds like to me your episodes happen after not during sex. With me I have minimal discomfort during intercourse but much increased abdomenal pain afterwards. So during the love making it can be so blissful and is the only time my body feels good and gives me an amazing feeling. I resented my body for a long time (still do to a point) for causing me all the pain it has so it took me a while to not feel guilty about making my body feel good by having sex. Now I just enjoy the sensations I get while making love and try to escape reality for a little bit. So I hope you can find a way to enjoy the experience of sex again and minimize your discomfort afterwards. I would experiment with different positions and try gentler and slower movements so it is not too much for your body to take. I know that has helped me and I think it would at least shorten or lower the intensity of your episodes if not eliminate them. I hope this helps!

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I haven't noticed a connection at all. Sorry you are. Maybe more gentle is a good idea and change of position.

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I have avoided the issue by avoiding the issue! I have been separated for 2.5 years. But I can say that even the thought makes me feel seasick. Because of constipation, I imagine for me it would be very uncomfortable.

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LoneRider: You mentioned that you have these episodes like me.. Its not just sex, I have the episodes regaurdless. Every couple of months I'm in one. I have a gastric stimulator, and it worked great at first..now I'm having epidodes every couple of weeks..and the only thing I'm doing different is I have a new guy in my life *blushes*...but when I think about it every relationship I've ever had has ended because I get so sick afterwards, so then I get nervous, and eventually I'll stop having sex... Then they leave me. Wow that makes them all sound like jerks huh? Don't get the wrong idea it usually takes about a year for this to happen. (all of my relationships have been serious ones) I almost can't blame them, you have a girlfriend but you can't give her love without making her puke... Ok big ramble I'm done.

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It can hurt some during but I am usually distracted... ;) It may hurt more or the same after but I usually only get lucky on my way to bed anyway. :D I DO think it has it's advantages because if I am constipated, make love, and go to bed I usually can wake to a BM. Thanks sweetie... it's a win-win! I think sometimes I just need stirred up! I think you should continue to experiment with ways and speeds and positions because you can't keep a relationship healthy without it. You said so yourself, and there is a lot of fun to be had other than the intecourse itself. Tons of foreplay would prepare you better for sex and probably help him be faster about it anyway. I hope you figure it out because my sweetie means the world to me and I would do anything for him. Jess

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I have to say it makes me feel sick after it, and the pain in my tummy is terrible, on a good note am noticing that sometimes it does make ma bowels move, which is not very sexy when y feel like y need to fart during whats supposed to be passion, and its not like i could do a wee sneaky one as i bloody stink all the time now. I would suggest trying different positions so he isnt pressing against yr tummy so much, and thats the kinda pain i like that comes with pleasure, no this crappy pain for nothing. x

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I am like soldier and Lone Ranger as far as the 4-6 day episodes every month or so. I,too need to be hospitalized for dehydration(Type 1 diabetic) and gat nausea and pain meds. Sometimes I get into a rythem of vomiting every ten minutes and can goe for days like that, The pain meds are mostly due to the burning/stabbing pain I get in my esophogus.
As far as the sex goes, I forgot. Both my husband and I take many meds that decrease your sex drive(he has ulcerative coliis and crohns disease). I do not ever remembering pain in the gut but then if there was, I was somewhere else and didn't notice. Hope you find some help/advise, i'm sure you will, this is the place to be :-)- Laura

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Ditto on helping with a BM if constipated, but if too constipated so uncomfortable, not to mention not feeling incredibly sexy when it's been four or five days...I was also going to suggest changing positions and maybe research suggested positions for late pregnancy- positions that have less impact. Also- do you have abort meds? Because if I feel an episode starting, I immediately take my cocktail of zofran 8 mg and ativan. Taking them together prevents the episode from progressing. Between domperidone, desipramine, and the abort meds, I have not had an episode now for almost a year.
So if you have the abort meds, or you can try them (it is that combo that works for me; I got it from the cyclic vomiting association website- it is the combination they suggest), what you might do is take them afterwards. Maybe if you do that it will prevent the episode from progressing.
Just wondering if you also get nauseated with bowel movements? Because that used to happen to me every time- I would get nauseous and also very weak and have to lie down for about 20 minutes afterwards. That is not happening to me anymore with the meds I take, so if you aren't taking any meds you might ask about them.
Good luck! And I agree with Melinda- intimacy is one thing that makes me feel like I'm still human, even if I can't eat like a normal person, or do as much as a normal person can. Also agree that the act itself is just a small part of the total thing, so hopefully a little tweaking of the process will help.

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I just take phenergen 25 mg and amitriptyline 25 @ night. I'm allergic to zofran and Ativan breaks my skin out in knots. Yes im very sick after a bm.. My doc has suggested I start taking Remeron.. Thanks to all for the advice!!

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That's a shame! That combination is like the magic bullet for me. Have you tried domperidone? And do you have an issue with constipation in general? Have you had motility testing of your small bowel and colon? Sorry if you have answered these questions before! I just don't remember. But the reason I ask is that my small bowel issues and colon inertia are what were triggering my episodes. I thought it was a stomach problem, but actually it was lower down. When my motility specialist said that I thought she was nuts but it turned out she was right.
I've had digestive issues since as long as I can remember. Until about four years ago, I had episodes requiring IV fluids, anti-emetics, sedatives, and pain meds about twice a year- it was so infrequent that it was always diagnosed as gastroenteritis or food poisoning. But then it started happening more often, to where it was about once a month or every six weeks. Or it might be twice in one month, then skip a month. The frequency kept increasing until it finally got to be pretty constant.
What was happening is that with my slow motility in my small bowel and colon, things would just keep backing up until they reached the point where something had to give. Then I would get a sudden chill and fatigue, and within about twenty minutes would be in the bathroom with cramping and urgent bowel movements and nausea, and then vomiting. It is very intense and violent and relentless- the episodes usually lasted from six to 12 hours, followed by two hours of uncontrollable shaking (and I mean teeth chattering, unable to speak, etc.). Finally after two hours of shaking, it would calm down and I would finally be able to relax.
I think the episodes are just my body trying to push everything out any way possible.
Since I have been on the domperidone and desipramine (similar to remeron in that it control nausea and helps with pain), I no longer get nauseated with BMs, and haven't thrown up for a year. I still get backed up and still have big dumping sessions, but usually without the pain and nausea.
Taking magnesium has really helped regulate my BMs.
Good luck- I hope you find some answers.
Wendy

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I have been on domperidone with no success I had an increased appitite but it did nothing for the nausea, so it was weird I was starving but so nauseous.. I don't really have a problem with constipation. The only time I don't have bm's is when I'm in an episode, because nothing is going in. And as soon as I can eat, they go back to working. But sometimes when i go, afterwards i'm dizzy and nauseous my head will start hurting and this is with little strain.. Sometimes i think i'm going to puke or pass out. The only GES I've had I think was just a regular one to check for GP. Thanks for talking with me about this it's nice to have a support network.. I LOVE YOU ALL!!!

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I'm not sure why having a BM makes you dizzy or nauseated sometimes. It must be something about the process that disrupts the blood flow, or inflames a nerve or something. But it does happen to quite a few people on here.

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