anyone know anything about dreams?..

my name is Erika and my Grandpa passed about 8 months ago. out of everyone in my family him and i had a special bond. i never left his side when i was younger and growing up i always made sure to call everyday and visit as much as possiable. and now that he is passed i call and talk to my grandma every morning and every night before i go to bed bc im so affraid of loosiong her too. i never had a father figure in my life when i was really little so thats why i think i was and still am still so attached to him even though he is now passed. i have been having dreams about him a few times every month and dont know why im the only one in the family who sees him in my dreams. in my dreams hes always sitting in this lazyboy chair that he loved at my grandmas house. growing up i spent a lot of time with him in that chair. and when i think of him i always think of that chair. he was in a lot of pain for the last few years of his life and it killed me to see him like that. im also going through a lot in my life medical wise right now bc i have been dealing with Crohns disease for about 2 years and it has been hell.it seems like whenever i dont feel good i see him in my dreams. could him showing up in my dreams be like him warning me to take care of myself?..

if anyone knows anything about dreams and knows why i might be having dreams like this please message me i feel like im crazy bc i cry for days after having dreams of him bc i miss him so bad.

By denimite
Posted June 16, 2009 at 9:58 am
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Dreams are the subconcious mind talking to you,
so think about it, you don't feel well and its a reminder of seeing your grandpa sitting there suffering. It could also be his way of letting you know he is around you. If you can hold a conversation with him in the dream, then he is sending you a message, if not I beleive it is your subconscience relating your health to his. Don't be sad about his passing, sure you miss him, but he is still around you obviously from your dreams so just talk to him and know they are not gone they are away from our sights, but never far from out hearts. I know they do not want us to grieve to much as I believe and have been told by some that the more we grieve the more they are forced to try to stay with us in spirit instead of moving on with their souls journey. I was told that after my mother died. I was devistated and could not get passed the grief, and was told I needed to set her free so she could move on in her journey, and she would be still around me, but not with the anchor of my grief. I know all this sounds wierd but it helped me get on with my life, and I watched a movie called WHAT DREAMS MAY COME with Robin Williams, and it just made sense to me, it explained how I feel about life and death, it is never over and we are still always together in our souls. And those that touch our lives the most are the souls that never leave us, and we will meet again.

Hope this helps, if you want to chat more, I am sure there is plenty of books and info on the net about interpreting dreams, but I would not worry about them, or be sad, be glad he is still with you in a way.

denimite@verizon.net
ps good luck with your health stay well

By erika6487
Posted June 17, 2009 at 12:54 am
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Thank you so much for some reason just what you said made me feel 100 times better about what im dreaming about iv read so many things about dreams and nothing has made more since then what you have just wrote to me i guess just hearing it form someone and not always reading about it kinda makes it easier to understand thank you so much again for your kind words and inspuration to set my grandpa on his new journey and help me stop greiving so bad!

By denimite
Posted June 17, 2009 at 6:50 pm
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No problem, and you are welcome, it does get easy with time, you learn to move on, but be gentle with yourself, everyone grieves in their own time and way, so just smile when you wake up and thank him for being around to remind you. I know it has been years since I dreamed of my mother, use to upset me that I did not dream of her, now I just talk to her like she is here, in my mind I will hear what I think she would have said as advice or an answer.
Take care
Denise

By dmrplmd
Posted June 25, 2009 at 8:59 am
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I too, when my grandfather passed away used to have numerous dreams with him in it all the time. As unusual as the dreams may have been at times and the hours I spent trying to figure out what they ment, I always enjoyed the time thinking about my grandpa (who always called me his favorite -which I'm sure I was out of all 14 grandkids). I did notice you mention that your Crohn's disease has gotten worse over resent months. From what I have know of others friends with the disease in stressful situations like a fatal illness and a death of a loved one - it can cause a flair up. I agree with the other reply in trying to reach out to him to understand what he is telling you and I can bet he is wanting you to work through the stages of grieving and become as healthy as you can again. One thing I used to do before I would go to bed was ask him the questions I wanted to know and ask him what he is trying to tell me. - Crying for days - that makes me sad but you should consider yourself blessed to be able to have those dreams with him in it and continue looking for the signs of your grandfather even in your waking day. Always remember that if you are stuck in one of the five stages of grief you should talk to a therapist. 1. Denial 2. Anger 3. Bargaining 4.Depression 5. Acceptence . everyone that loses someone goes through these stages some at diferent times and some you can bouce back and forth between until you get to the acceptence. Just keep in mind that everyone has their own pace in getting there.

By erika6487
Posted June 26, 2009 at 4:53 pm
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thank you also for your response. a few nights ago i had a dream where i was mad and yelled at my Gpa over something he said when i woke up and for the past few days i have been thinking about when he first passed and how hard it was for me to see him dying more and more every day i walked into his hospital room. as i look back i feel a lot of anger not haterid type of anger but just anger that he left me. i feel selfish for even saying that but i feel like i may be still hanging on to him so much bc i do have that anger of the day i stood next to him and watched him pass from life to after life. i dont know how to get past this stage where im feeling like this. Bc its killing me to feel like this towards him..i cant remember one day of my life where i was ever mad at him and i think thats why its hitting me so hard. just feel like im in a stand still with this part of my life.

By dmrplmd
Posted July 1, 2009 at 9:29 am
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I am happy to hear you were able to figure out your dream. Anger is common - many people feel anger toward their loved ones when they die. It is completely normal. That's why it is step number 2. They are angry that they left them.
Now it is a matter of getting through the rest of the steps - they don't have to be in order. However if you feel you are stuck and it is taking to long ie stuck in the depression stage it may be best to go to the local Hospice and talk to a therapist or free grief support group. They can help you through the rest. It is a very difficult time and is very hard on the health. If you are a stay at home type that likes to read - any book by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross is very good. On Grief and Grieving is the best !She is the woman who made the stages of grieving and therapists and hospice uses it today.

By Bug57
Posted July 2, 2009 at 11:32 am
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Please know your grandpa is with you all the time. The dreams are his way of sharing with you he is there. When you finally get to talk to him, please don't say, oh aren't you suppose to be dead. They are dead from their physical body.
Someone told you to ask your grandfather a question before going to sleep, that is the best way to get a conversation going with him. You will get your answer, just be patient.
I lost my mom last August and we have conversations all the time. In August I will send her on her way. She has work to do on the other side and I keep her here. I love her very much and I know I will see her again when it's my turn to go home. I hope this helps you out. Don't fear, just love and know he is with you so can get better. Kathie

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