Why wont doctor give me something for pain?

I only wish my doctor would give me some form of pain medicine instead of Nsaids. Im so frustrated that they dont listen to me. I'm in a lot of pain, now have to use a hand brace due to bone spurs in my thumb. I've told them Nsaids hurt my stomach, so what do they give me for pain? Nsaids. I dont get why they are so stingy, and uncaring when all I need is the pain to go away for even an hour would be nice. I've even thought desperately to look online to see about buying pain meds because my docs just dont listen to me..but Im scared. Never really know if what people are selling on the internet is safe. I am so frustrated right now. Seeing people online who get the pain medication they need makes me envious! Just want a physician who is compassionate instead of thinking they know how I feel.

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Hi,
I'm sorry that you are in pain and your doctors are not listening to you.
Do not get meds off the net!
This is expensive and illegal. Plus, you have no idea what you will actually get.
I truly understand your frustration. Are you sleeping? Able to eat? Work?

I recently had to see a a doctor for my W/C case (he's the insurance company's puppy dog and a fraud - enough said about him) and he asked me where I would be without my pain meds.
I answered truthful fully - "In a nursing home, curled up in a fetal position - or dead from suicide".
Of course, he made fun of that answer - but I was only being straight with the jerk.

I have found that a couple of things have helped me immensely with my doctors in the pain med issues.
First - see if you can find a "Pain Journal" off the net or make one up (it does not have to be fancy) and keep a record of when your pain is higher and lower and what happens when you take one of your prescribed NSAIDS. If you have a bad reaction to it - log that too. Also document what life activities you are able/unable to do because of the pain.

Second - if at all possible - take a family member of close friend with you into your next O/V who can, along with your journal, tell the doctor that they have seen you suffering and know that you are really trying to get by on as little medication as possible - but whatever they are currently giving you - you have no quality of life or pain relief.
Show the doctor your journal - and discuss all the ways (therapy,etc) plus a change in your meds that you can get a break from the pain.

Hope this helps.
I truly hope you and everyone has a low pain and low stress day.

Candy

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I know what you mean, my doctor put me on advil then naproxon 500mg once a day. The pain only went a away when I took 500mg once in the morning and once in the evening. When I went back she told me that I was taking to much. So she put me on 325mg twice a day, that didnot help. So I called her back and told her that 325mg was not helping with the pain in my hip (arthritis) so she put me on celebrex once a day and it has helped alot , but she only prescribed it for 2 months. That's not good for me, and then I have to go back to naproxon. She told me if I take more(naproxon) than what she recommened it could mess up my liver and other organs.

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Thanks for writing! I know what you mean. The docs are willing to give you something for swelling, but it damages your stomach and liver...but they would rather give us that than a pain pill! 2 me that just doesn't make sense! And also Celebrex was recalled and I have been offered that medicine too, it can cause heart attacks. Maybe the docs want us to have a medical problem so they can get more money?? Have a good day. Thanks again 4 writing. Shel

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Wow! I could've written your exact post! I am having the same issues. I have told the doctor I am up for anything to feel better, but that is all I want to feel better and be able to function. I am a mother of 4 young kids & their life suffers too because mine does. It is not fair. When I lived in Texas 2 years ago the doctors there prescribed for me, but the doctors out here in Utah seem to be leery to give anyone pain meds ... at least that is what I have seen so far or I have just had really bad luck with docs. The docs admit they don't know what's wrong with me and talk about trying to get me into the Mayo Clinic, but they would rather see me take 800mg twice a day of Motrin, 2000 mg tsice a day of Tylenol with a dang muscle relaxer that doesn't even seem to be helping ... Robaxin. I even tried a new med for Fibromyalgia to see if that would help at all but it only made my blood pressure shoot up as I have hypertension as well. Oh, not to mention that I have to take Prilosec daily to make sure I am not eating my stomach up. I have tried Tramadol ... the non-steroidal pain med in the past & it was horrible! At that time the doc had me on that & Flexeril (a slightly better muscle relaxer) but since I am epileptic the combination of the 2 drugs almost killed me by causing hundreds of seizures in a few hours ... and that doc should've known that Tramadol is DEADLY to an epileptic. So, meanwhile I am suffering terribly and I really believe I am taking far more medications then I should be if a simple pain medication would prevent me taking such high doses of Tylenol & Motrin .... let alone the Prilosec. Doesn't it seem stupid. My OBGYN who was handling me primarily when I was pregnant said after I delivered that she didn't want to prescribe me pain medications because I am in chronic pain & have a higher chance of becoming addicted then a typical person that only has occasional severe pain. I asked her, "so then let's get down to figuring out what's wrong with me & fix me so I can get better." She was luck, "with all of your health problems that is just not a reality." I thought to myself, "so does that mean they just expect me to hurt the rest of my life ... is that what ???" I have recently even started physical therapy hoping that it will at least help my muscles ... but it ends up causing pain with my joints.

URG! Can't they tell I am not just an addict out there wanting to be hopped up on drugs? I just want to be able to function & not be in crippling pain. Don't they care???

Sorry ... I know this is long & I am just ranting but I so understand ... especially when you say you try not to be envious of friends who get pain prescriptions so easily. I struggle with that too.

Sommer

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it is very hard to get pain meds has anyone ever tried seeing a pain management dr? family dr's won't do it untill a higher dr does start you on meds and it also depends on your age as well.

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They think you'll get addicted.

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The arthritis gene has plagued my family for 5 generations and difficult to treat. Fortunately I have a good pcp who will refer me when I ask. see http://www.symptomfind.com/diseases-conditions/arthritis-types/

Drs are monitored as to how much narcotic pain they prescribe and can get into trouble with the medical board if overdone. So they usually refer. I cope the best I can and find relief in various forms including medications.

Ask your dr. to refer you to a rheumatologist or one who specializes in pain management - I go to both. 3 months ago I got a nerve block for neck pain, the spasms and pain are gone. Today was my 3 mo check and the dr did a low back injection. In the past I've had a finger joint done, one shot usually alleviates the pain and inflammation. Naproxon is the only drug that helped my knee so I opted for a knee replacement when I was 60...that was 12 years ago.

I hope you can come up with a balanced plan as you are still young. Don't give up and look into all the different forms of treatment.

Best wishes.
Rosie

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Oh i totally understand how you feel.It was same till doc diagnosed me with chronic pain.So whenever im sick and end up in hospital they shoot me with Morphine (i hope i spelled it right) and in begining it worked now i feel like im drunk but some pain is still there and to be honest i wish iv never complained about my pain to that doc because even when i get Morphine i suffer later on from horible stomach pain as a side effect to meds.Regular pills dont do it for me either but if it continues this way im scared i might become drug adicct.So i would say all these docs that are not to quick to give you narcotics are better because side effects are far worse when you use them.

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stlmirela, Tell the dr about the stomach pain & nausea, I did and he changed it to Oxycontin

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Wow! You poor girl! I know what you mean about the docs should know what mixes with what medicine and what disease. 100's of seizures..my gosh you could have died! I've had meds given to me that weren't supposed to be taken together also that the doctor has given me and ended up in the ER! They really should read their PDR's. I too have taken Robaxin, but it seems to help somewhat, but my rheumatology doc doesn't want to give it to me...just Gabapentin, which I asked for..I told her I read up on some things and would like to try Lyrica or Gabapentin or Cymbalta because I know they won't give me anything for pain, so this, I have read, may help. So far from the Gabapentin my hair seems to be falling out! Lovely, my birthday of 49 years is next month and I may just be celebrating with no hair! But they would rather give me this than something for the real problem, pain! I sure hope they can find out what is wrong, you are way too young to have to deal with all this on your own. The Mayo Clinic would be a good start for you. I too have taken physical therapy. Besides it being ridiculously expensive, it really didn't help and that's what they suggested I do this time and I told them I refuse to go again. Hang in there and I hope you can find some answers. Hope to add you as a friend. Take Care. Shel

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Hi There,
You know I have looked up a doctor that is a physiatry doctor....and I have never heard of that, but am thinking on trying him....I've heard of psychiatry, but not physiatry! It says they treat pain. I believe he would be higher up than a doctor and that would make sense to go to someone who treats pain. There is a pain management doc in town, but said they believe in physical therapy, etc. Thanks for writing me. Shel

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Hi Rosie,
I recently began going to a Rheumatologist and she refuses to give anyone pain meds! She put me on Gabapentin, and I am hoping it will work, but it's making me lose my hair so far. I get cortisone shots, so far in my shoulder and it does help, but she doesn't like to give Robaxin...I guess every doctor has their ideas of which meds work, even though I tell her Robaxin works for me...they don't prescribe it. You are lucky to get the medication you need, wish I could find a doc that would help me also. Thanks for writing. Shel

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Hello
My advice is to change doctors. I was in a similar situation before I change doctor. I remember the doctor telling me it was all in my head and give me some naproxen which didnt help at all. I end up changing doctors. They found out that I many probelms that was causing pain now I currently take flexerell which a muslce relaxer, tramodol, naproxen, omeprazole which is generic for prilosec to protect my stomach. I take a few more as well. Omperzole keep my stomach from feeling irriate. I take a total of 9 different medicine in all to help manage my pain. It's important not to give up. It is important that your doctor understand your pain. If he doesn't you need to change to someone who does.

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Hello
My advice is to change doctors. I was in a similar situation before I change doctor. I remember the doctor telling me it was all in my head and give me some naproxen which didnt help at all. I end up changing doctors. They found out that I many probelms that was causing pain now I currently take flexerell which a muslce relaxer, tramodol, naproxen, omeprazole which is generic for prilosec to protect my stomach. I take a few more as well. Omperzole keep my stomach from feeling irriate. I take a total of 9 different medicine in all to help manage my pain. It's important not to give up. It is important that your doctor understand your pain. If he doesn't you need to change to someone who does.

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I agree with all the others that advise you to change doctors if after taking the steps I outlined in my first post - pain journal and your reaction to your meds - if they still will not give you anything stronger - I read your bio and you have a lot going on - I would really try to find a doctor that is willing to try to get you BETTER.

Meaning, meds, therapy, etc. An entire plan. Not just one who keeps giving you something that upsets your stomach or makes your hair fall out - ( I could live with the hair thing if it took away my pain - but you have not seemed to indicate that it does).

So, after giving this doctor one more heart to heart - look elsewhere.
I would start now just to be prepared.

Low pain days to all.
Hugs
Candy

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Hi Candy,

I agree with the medical & Pain journal. I started one recently but I just need to keep in the habit of writing in it daily.

The doc that almost killed me with the pain drugs is the same one that said I should go to a pain clinic & was referring me out to pain management. I made the mistake, however, of quitting him before I got into the clinic. So, the new PCP I have is not a believer in pain clinics and now that is no longer an option.

It's hard coming up with a total treatment plan when they don't really know what's wrong. And, every doctor keeps saying something different then the previous docs. So far they keep saying it's most likely an auto immune disorder like Multiple Sclerosis or SLE Lupus ... combined with Fibromyalgia. But, nothing is set in stone so far and they keep changing their minds. In the meantime, whatever is wrong with me gets worse, the pain and fatigue gets worse, and I am taking WAY too many over the counter meds that hardly have any effect at all except that they are probably destroying my stomach and liver ... and I just suffer.

I agree that I do not want a doctor that just band aids the problem. If I wanted a doc that would just write a slew of pain meds then I would've gone to my sister's doc out here. All he does is write pain scrips for her & doesn't really care about fixing her problems. I do NOT need a band aid. I need someone who will not give up on me, try to figure me out, and hopefully cure me ... or stop my disease from getting worse, slow it down ... something! And, ultimately, help me have a better quality of life where I can function and be a better wife and mother.

I just hope the doctors can see that I am not one the just wants to be hopped up on pain pills. I will try anything to get better .... even torturous physical therapy.

I appreciate everyone's kind responses! Thank you to everyone and I hope everyone has a pain free (or something close to it) day!

Sommer

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Hi Sommer,
I just want to say to you and everyone here that I am a firm believer of true chronic pain patients being treated with dignity and compassion. My own neuro/pain mgmt. doctor had a real hard time convincing me to take my meds wayyy back when I first started seeing him.

I was a mess.
But he had studies that proved TRUE chronic pain patients that take their meds as prescribed, do not become addicted. Tolerant, yes, but as long as you are not doctor shopping or "losing scripts", or filling early - etc. and you do not abuse your meds - some people need them to function.

Along with a real plan, they have a place in treating intractable pain for some people.
But that is a very personal decision that everyone has to make.

It just breaks my heart to hear of needless suffering. I truly hope that you find a doctor that will work with you - Bless your heart - I'm amazed you can walk and talk after all those seizures. What a horror story.

I wish everyone a low pain and low stress day.
Hugs
Candy

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Thanks everyone for writing!

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I went through therapy and been to pain clinic. I think pain clinics are excellent. When I went i had two steriod injection that I thought wasn't helping but turns out it was helping after all. I had a probelm communicating with my doctor. He really didn't understand my pain. Since I see a physicologist he help talk to my doctor. I was so bad off at first I thought I was worthless but I'm getting better with it. Communication is key. Like candy said have someone help you talk to your doctor. My pain is somewhat manageable I still have bad days. I take a lot of medicine but some of it is only as needed. I have learn that Depression can make your pain worst. I currently keep two journal a pain and thought journal. This is site is a blessing to me. I use two think I was alone. I understand completely about pain. I think its important to learn about the different types of pain for example dull, achy, cramping, sharp pain my rhemautolgist taught me about the different types of pain. you might need to see a specialist I see at least three specialist and my regular doctor. Well any I hopw you a relaxing day.
Brenda

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NO DR WILL GIVE YOU MED'S YOU HAVE TO SEE A PAIN DR THEN YOUR DR CAN WRITE YOU PRESCRIPTIONS IT IS DIFFECULT EVERYWHERE I WOULD NEVER EVER BUY MEDS OFF THE COMPUTER OR EVEN SELL THEM FOR 1000 DOLLARS AND THATS PROBALY WHY SOME DR WON'T GIVE IT ANY MORE AND LIKE THEY SAID YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT YOUR GETTING OFF THE COMPUTER IT'S EVIL THE COMPUTER IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT FOR ME I LOVE IT AND WATCH WHO YOU TALK TO I TALK TO MANY AWESOME PEOPLE BUT IF YOUR IN PAIN AND NEED MEDS GET YOUR DR TO REFER YOU TO A PAIN MANAGEMENT DR THATS THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN GET MEDICAN TO HELP DEPENDING ON YOUR M R I CAT SCANS WHERE YOUR TUMORS ARE GROWING AND HOW YOUR LIVEING YOUR LIFE.

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