"Blowing out someone else's candle. . .

"Blowing out someone else's candle does not make yours shine any brighter."

The rest of the world does not come to a standstill because of this battle that we find ourselves in with this despicable OVC . For those not afflicted, their world continues on with life, death, happiness, sorrow and everything in between. We need to join them in their laughter, joy and happiness and we need to hold them close, wipe away their tears, be three to give them a warm embrace in their heartaches and their grief. This OVC was not inflicted upon us because of anything they did nor is there anything they can do to take it away. We need to love others as though there were no tomorrow, both the OVC afflicted as well as the non-afflicted.

Bitterness, anger, unforgiveness, spitefulness, is just another form of cancer, that tries to suck the very life out of every person it touches.

We are stronger than this evil of cancer. We will be victorious and NOT be a victim.

Edited May 2, 2010 at 2:06 pm

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San_Antonio_Lassie,

It truly is wonderful the way you think and share. Bless you and thank you.

Bob

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I know. My friends always start a conversation "with this is nothing compared to what you are going through so I'm not going to talk to you about it." Like I lost my empathy or sympathy for anybody else?

I'd like to think that I can still relate to my friends and family that don't have cancer, I had and still have such a wonderful support system that I'd like to always be there for them as they were for me. Yes cancer is terrible and I wish I didn't have it; but I do and nothing is going to change that.

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THanks for the wonderful words.....sooo true. I find that there is such an awkwardness at times when I get together with family/friends who know I have cancer. It just doesn't feel the same, as though they are walking on egg shells around me, not knowing what to do or say. Im not Kris any more, but now Kris with cancer. I have one dear close friend that never makes me feel different. I forget that I even have it when Im around her....I am so blessed for her friendship.

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i like the way you think.

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another way of thinking of the same thing .....one candle can light a thousand and still burn bright ;)

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Wonderful Post.... I agree 100%!

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Thank you for your thoughts. It is so true that everyone carries some kind of burden in their life. We are all here to support one another. Blessings on you! mary

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Thanks for posting this. I've had to tell a couple of my friends that what I am going through does not diminish what they are going through. I want and need to still be there for my friends and wish they wouldn't try to keep things from me.

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yes.

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Onthemend, your quote of "one candle can light a thousand and still burn bright ". . . I had never heard before. I will add that to my "keepers". Thanks for sharing.

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:) it is a paraphrase of an old buddhist saying I'm glad you like it

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Thanks for sharing these words.
They hit home on many points.
Lets keep our chins up and move forward each day with a bright star in our eyes, and our eyes on the prizes.

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You hit it on the nail.

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thanks

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I really needed that today, thank you.

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Me too - have been dx now for 6 months and hate being mary with cancer instead of just mary. Can't wait to get off chemo and start giving back - and once I have hair again it won't be so obvious - one thing I hate is that everyone feels that they have to have my kids over - my kids are old enough that they and their friends here are no trouble - kind of makes me feel like a leper and of course lonely - I know they all mean well however.

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Maryand, don't let your lack of hair hold you back. It is indeed a sign of courage, stamina, strength and a battle well fought!! Enjoy others inviting your kids over to their house :o) How wonderful that you have such good friends, that they try to help. When you feel up to it, then is the time to "give back", until then. . . drink in the love that is being expressed to you and let it give you added inspiration to reach out to others as you are able. Your being on this site, is an inspiration to others, thank you for being there.

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