I'm a 70 year old male, in excellent health. I seem to have the need to masterbate reguarly, at least every other day, sometime daily. This is mainly due to the fact that I enjoy the sensation! I use old Swinger publications, with explicit photos and text personals. as an aid. I am divorced, live alone in my home, so its easy to do, anytime I feel the urge. Have been divorced for 15 years, seeing my exwife several times a week--dinner, shopping, etc (good relationship). She and I do not have any type of sexual relations, she CLAIMS she can't have an orgasm, no sensation. I sort of suspect(she has gotten a little heavy) and that she does'nt want me to view her body, plus she hasexhibited concern that her children or grandchildren might happen-by, but there are many time when that would not be feasible for them.
So, I am just wondering if I am normal (and if so I go on masterbating, and enjoying it til I'm 81 or 91, or until I lose the use of my right hand? Or, am I abnormal, maybe a sex-crazed maniac!
I believe personal masterbation is about the only subject that most guys don't ge into. I mention a couple of times to to guys that I had taken my blood pressure immediately after masterbating (I'm a scientist!) and it had really shot up----I got no comment!
Thanking you in advance for any comment you might care to make-male or female. Would dearly live to hear from both!
Mr. Action

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So...Did this urge just hit you now that you are 70? If you are told you are abnormal, would you stop?

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Urge did'nt just hit me---have just been doing it more often the last several years. Did so even when married as I never seemed get enough sex---the masterbation was sort of a fill-in.
No, I probably would'nt quit if I was told I was abnormal. In fact, I know I would'nt---I enjoy it too much. What are your feeling on the matter---I'm interested in other opinions.

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this is a natural thing for me as well as husband has a saying god gave it to me to do as i want and as long as it feels good and you are not hurting anyone by your actions go for it old man and enjoy the ride while it lastes...lizze

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Mr.Action, I dont think you have to worry about it. I'm 69, my wife left over 3 years ago. The only sex i have now is with my right hand. I just had to fall upon this subject and i"m in the same boat. I do it once or twice a week. With all you see on TV these days it's easy to get an erection. As lizzie says, if it feels good, keep doing it as long as you dont hurt anybody bother.

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You are correct most men don't talk about it but yet a lot of them do it. I am 60 and been married 35 years and have never stoped doing it since I was 10. I think it is normal your blood pressure would rise even after normal sex. My wife and I have sex once or twice a week and some weeks we don't have at all. Either way I still find myself doing it a couple of time a week. My wife does it too. She keeps a small vibrator in the bathroom in a drawer and a couple of time a week I notice it is wet after she showers. I am glad to hear you are 70 and still doing it. That means I have at least another 10 years of pleasure. Keep it up.

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I think your very normal. People just don't talk about it.

It's like the news story of elderly couples in Florida at a retirement home for active adults having sex on park benches...etc and the rise of STDs elderly adults.


Doctors said sexually transmitted diseases among senior citizens are running rampant at a popular Central Florida retirement community, according to a Local 6 News report.

A gynecologist at The Villages community near Orlando, Fla., said she treats more cases of herpes and the human papilloma virus in the retirement community than she did in the city of Miami.

"Yeah, they are very shocked (to hear the diagnosis)," gynecologist Dr. Colleen McQuade said. "I had a patient in her 80s."

"I have had a better dating life since I have been here than I have ever had," Franklin said. "I know there are things going around."

A doctor blamed Viagra, a lack of sex education and no risk for pregnancy for the spike in sexually transmitted diseases at The Villages.

"All I can repeat are the things I have heard which are things like, 'Should I bring the little blue pills over tonight?'" community singles group president Richard Matwyshen said.

Hope this helps!!!


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Jesus says: "All the one that looks a woman to covet it, is guilty of judgment."
To do what you do, you need to think in a woman. If that woman is your wife, that could be fine. But if you have your wife with you and you still need a masturbation, then you or your wife could have the need of a doctor,or something is going bad in your relationship. If the woman you are thinking of is not your wife, then you are acting against of what God wants from us.

God bless you....


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If you are going to us a word spell it right. The word is MASTURBATION. I am not sure what MASTERBATION is. You described MASTURBATION.

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jacintoernesto Jesus also said "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her." John 8:7
I could not find the passage you quoted since you did not reference it.

Mr. Action if you want to read some articles from the net on this here are a couple of good ones.
You will need to copy them from here and paste them to Google.
But if you want to really feel bad about this you can read this site and get the Spiritual and physical reasons against masturbation from a Biblical perspective.

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mr action...did u ever masturbate while ur wife was watching? also... why not just have sex more with ur wife...or was having the porn mags more meeting your needs than your wife was...does masturbating have anything to do with ones wife...did she turn u on...i have some very personal thoughts on this...but was needing to know more your thoughts...i do want to thank you for your openness on this matter...most guys will just lie and say they don't do masturbating a different kind of climax than when u have sex with your im thinkin who needs a really...

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ty 4 the sites...they helped to anwser some of those questions i had for mr action...i sure do have some hang ups in the area of masturbation...this will be most helpful...and the sites are tastefully like most women, if not to say the least like alot of women, i supose... and feel very threatened if hy husband looks at porn...i had a childhood experience that prolly still effects me today...i'll be 50 in a few months...and i sure would like to find peace with time i went and bought the porn mags...i was trying to decenitize myself in a sort of way...after i became comfortable with them...i shared them with my husband...he was like...waiting for the **** to hit the it did not really go the way i wanted it to...what i found was a very big turn on for me...we have been married for 29 years next week...we have and do include masturbation in our love making...i really get excited watching him...omg...yet im not as comfortable and relaxed as i want to be when i masturbate in front of is better if we are masturbating together...don't know why im sharing all this with u...anyway thanks again 4 the sites...

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Dear Mr.Action,
I'm 66 and masturbate regularly. I consider myself perfectly normal and so should you. I agree, it's something that a lot of men don't want to talk about, but that's just because they're hypocritical - they all do it. I enjoy talking about masturbation and have written my masturbation autobiography. If you're interested in reading it, write to me at and I'll send it to you. In the meantime carry on masturbating as often as you like!!

Best wishes,

Julian Blake

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