Journal Entry Oct, 9th 2008

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I can’t say that I feel better today than any other day. I can’t say that I am happy or sad or angered.

It's as if I am sitting in a park watching life pass, and all I can do is feed the pigeons...they don't mind how i feel, they just eat and coo away at each other not knowing or caring about me. I watch over them and protect them for the time being. An old man is sitting on the park bench directly in front of me. We don’t speak. I just smile and nod... he returns my smile with one of his.
More birds fly down to feed on my hand full of bird seeds. I look back at the old man, sitting there with his shirt neatly tucked in and his old race track cap hung low on his brow. In his shirt pocket there is an eye glass case, the type given to you at the eye doctor, apparently there to remind him that he has glasses to help him if need be. His tweed jacket is too warm for this time of year, but I remind myself that I am young and he has seen many of these days long before me. I smile again...
His shoes are not medically prescribed, but look very comfortable. Black with laces too long for them tied in several knots. Rabbit ears are his loops. His wrist watch is nothing special, it looks plain but old. It tells time...nothing more. The leather band looks new, as if he carefully attached it himself.
I catch myself looking too long and continue to feed the pigeons. I can’t help in seeing his hands, folded in front of him on his lap; time worn hands of a man that has not spent his life counting money, but working for it. Big hands, similar to my own...
He slowly gets up ... one motion at a time...slowly turning his body into position. I make a slight move to help, but his hand raises and stops me before I start.
On his feet, he looks strong and able... but he knows it will take him some time before he gets home.
He fixes his cap, and takes a deep breath. His journey home isn’t timed, but eventful. He starts off...I keep my eyes down on the pigeons. As he walks he looks around as if everything he sees he is looking at for the every first time.
He turns and said, "Don’t forget the little pigeons."
I respond, “I won't Dad!"

8 replies

What a beautiful POEM! It moved me greatly. (Didn't know you were a poet, did you?)

Speaking as one poet to another, I hope you will continue to scribble down your thoughts and feelings at this most difficult time in your life. . . .

And your Dad is so right!! --"Don't forget the little pigeons!"

Sometimes all of us humans feel as helpless as little pigeons, and sometimes we truly are. But that does not mean we are in any way inferior or "less than"--it just means we are suffering humans. Write on--

Love,
Barbara

Just thoughts Barbara... lol.. but thank you. I just let it all go today.... dont know where it came from.

I will continue, if you promise to continue reading and making me feel better. ;O)

Warmest wishes,
Giuseppe

What a great post - My eyes are welled up.....awesome...keep them coming!
Karen

What a beautiful post! As a caregiver we have hard times but I feel we also have a chance to see sides of our loved ones that we may have not taken the time to see before. I find myself looking at things more clearly now. None of us know when or how our life will change. I have sent along a precious memory I got on July 6th this year. My hubby has ExSCLC and he has finished chemo and 6 weeks of radiation. He may be in remission, we will find out soon. Take care and thank you for sharing! Lucy


Posted July 7,2008
Hi folks,
I want to share with you what went on yesterday. He got a metal detector for Christmas last year and has been patiently waiting to use it. Well, yesterday I finally gave in to him and took him up into the state valley so he could use it. It was very hot out and the heat bothers him but he got all dressed in a long sleeved flannel shirt and long jeans to protect himself from bugs (which made him hotter) He had on his doo rag and a baseball cap. He waited until we were up in the woods a good long ways before he mentions that he forgot his emergency inhaler... I paniced because the heat sets him off usually. And here we are back in the deep woods and if he goes down and cant tell me how to get out of there I am so in trouble! So I freak out but he says not to worry...and he puts on his earphones that go with the metal detector, throws a green canvas bag over his shoulder (to keep all his treasures in...)he has a hoe in hand to dig when the machine says to and off he goes, slowly wandering back and forth looking silly and very serious at the same time. I am keeping the truck running so he can get in quick and cool off he he needs to. I can see he is breathing pretty hard but he keeps plodding along. He gets about 100 yards from me and I see some flowers and decide he is stable and I wandered over to pick them. Suddenly out of the corner of my eye I see him waving his arms. I panic and run for the truck, hop in and drive towards him as quickly as the hills and ruts would allow the truck to go. I am scared to death as I pull up to him and he turns towards me with the most excited smile I have ever seen on his face and he holds up an old used bullet casing, "LOOK WHAT I FOUND!!!"
He was as excited as a kid who found the biggest Easter egg! He gave it to me for safe keeping and turned and wandered off. You can't tell but right now I am crying because I can see him in my memory so happy at such a simple thing then carrying on walking through the tall grass away from me. I know it wont be very long before I am going to have to let him go and he will wander away forever. But for now, when ever he wants to I will follow him and let him wander. I will cherish the memory of his first big day at treasure hunting! He walked about a mile total and was very exhausted but he was truly happy. He spent today sleeping off his big adventure and hopefully we can resume his hunt another day. Thank you for letting me share this day with you. Hope you are all well and I will pray for you all. God Bless. Lucy

Thank you Lucy for sharing that day with me. I see that flannel shirt and smell the wilderness in your story.

I just realized something... it's not the memeories that you remember, but the memories that you share that make a difference.

Thank you for sharing your thoughtful memory with me. I hope all the best for you and your hubby. I hope you are sharing these great memories with him as well.

Giuseppe, I've heard it said that good things can come from unfortunate circumstances. You must write! Your words touched my soul, and the imagery of your day really made me smile. The compassion and love you have for your family is what life is truly about. My daughter passed away one year ago from ovarian cancer. It was my privilege to be her Caretaker and love & nurture her right back into God's arms. I will be praying for you and your family as you seek to live one moment at a time.....loving each other.

Pam

Thank you Pam... You are kind in your words.
I am so sorry for your loss. I can not even beginning to imagine how you must feel. It will take me sometime to regain my love of life and love of writing.
Things are at a standstill and the only things I write are solemn depressing. All in all... I have you all here to read my dribble... lol

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