I have been happily married to my wife for 15+ years. During that time, we have enjoyed a fully monogamous relationship. Recently, she had a positive result on her regular Pap test after years of normal results. A follow-up colposcopy revealed a high incidence of abnormal cells. She is scheduled to go in for a LEEP next week.
We are both scared and devastated. I don't know how this could happen. I have always been true to her including our dating years before marriage and I know in my heart of hearts that she has too. Certainly before we met we each had a few partners, but nothing since we have been together (18 years)
The literature and research doesn't seem to address our situation. Only that HPV causes the dysplasia and that HPV is transmitted through skin to skin sexual contact. I have found nothing about the gestation or potential latency of the virus which would explain our situation.
I am at a loss. We know that stress is the worst thing for someone in my wife's situation and she needs to be focused on getting better. By the same token, I am afraid of the loss of trust that could result based on everything that I have read.
This is like a nightmare I can't wake up from. I love my wife as much as any man can. Does anyone have any insights on how our situation could happen?