And if that wasn't enough

Few people seem to remember that in addition to trying to get thru day to day, move, get out of bed, think, some sort of pain control, some days even to talk or function is impossible: we still have families and have to deal with life.
These last 2 weeks have pushed our family to the limits. I know God will not give us more than we can take. Only His strength got me thru doing what had to be done. My brother came in unexpectantly with his 2 boys and dog after splitting up with his wife. He is a whirlwind of havic and, well upheaveal. I had a nonfunctional episode 2 days after he came. Scared the crap out of him. We have our kids when we are younger and don't know any better for a reason. My hhusband and I live a fairly quiet life with my 77 year old mother. They take care of me most times I can't take care of myself. Trying to keep up with a 14 yr old as well as a hyper 8yr old was a challenge in it's self.
Last Tues. pm our granddaughter called sobbing.... "Someting terrible has happened". When I called back to see what was wrong I was not prepared to hear" My sister's dead(3 yr old angel laughing child) she drownwd today. Can I please come stay with you and Grandpa?" The next few hours and days became a blur. Her mother is our former daughter-in-law but is still our daughter. Our son is a driver from hell and in Jail til next week so he is not availible to help his child. Of course we went to comfort her mother and bring her to our house. She is on 2 meds for Attention deficeit and hyperactivity. Our house buldging at the seams, 3 kids my timebomb brother...... I was praying and holding on as possible to function, and answer a 9 yr olds questions of death, God, Why? As well as help with my nephews, calm my husband, help my mom.
Why people think we sit on our duffs taking drugs and not trying to hold up our part in the family is beyond me. Our grandaughters family is moving out of the house to a new home and working together thru the grief, my brother and his sons are in a place of thier own now thanks to my precious mother. And all of us are drained . I did good to get out of bed today. We are also greiving for the baby. It's all just unreal.
Yesterday I received a letter from medicaid sent on the 28th to respond by the 29th for phone interview or I may be rejected for not responding on time and I received it in the mail the 30th- Saturday of course no ones in the office.
There was a time I would just go into overdrive and look like Kelly Ripta on those commercials breezing thru any catastrophe that befell us. Now I do good some days to get myself to the bathroom. I know I'm not the only one. So many still have homes, kids and many more problems of life to deal with daily. Guess I just needed to vent and give God glory for dbeing there step by step to impower as well comfort us all.

By sternum
Posted June 1, 2009 at 1:18 pm
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I am humbled by your persaverence and inspired by your faith. Yes, God will never give us more than we can handle with His help. We need only to ask and accept. Be blest --- Gloria ---

By Winglover
Posted June 1, 2009 at 3:49 pm
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I agree that God does not give us more than he knows we can handle, but sometimes it could be a little slower and not all at once. Continue to stay strong. Prayers go out to you and your family.

By Bikrbarb
Posted June 30, 2009 at 3:35 am
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Thank you all so much for prayers. I need to find a new pcp as mine decided I shouldn't have to take so much pain meds( weakest vicodan) sorry the drugstore lost my rx for sleeping pills( pain worse at nite as well as being insomniac of the ages) and the office kept either loosing important paperwork or were too busy to fill it out in a timely fashion. They were sorry about my luck but in the meantime my stimulas check went to Dept. of Ed for a student loan as well as they started taking out $204.14 from my SS disability checks until the signed paperwork was turned in. After 2 years of NO money and still unable to return to work it seemed like $2,000. After 7 years he knows I'm allergic to all pain meds except vicodan and duiladid. I certainly can't take a chance of abusing anything that helps because I'll be outta luck if they stop helping. I was so shocked as well as mortified to be questioned in that manner. Anyone know of any pcp's in Wesley Chapel area that takes medicaid or has the slighhhtest idea if dysautonomia? Happy 4th of July!!!!!

By Flossy
Posted July 1, 2009 at 9:34 am
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You are exactly right!!! Give God that glory. Also give him thanks for bringing this little angel into your life and for getting to share her life for three years. She was a blessing!!! It is a gift from God to Know someone so innocent and young. Unaware of the troubles of the world. The best of all is she never suffered all the diseases of the world, the turmoils that life has to offer, or the hell on earth that some people decide to live.
I lost a great-nephew (my sisters grandson) about a year ago and it was extremely painful. The worst part is now my sister and her son are charged in the death. Homicide by child abuse. The media have all made them look like the devil himself. I am in shock that this has happened to her and her son. I know for a fact that they are innocent, The baby was with his biological mom (whom never raised him and never bonded) and her live in boyfriend, for 17 1/2 hours prior to his death. The investigaters botched the whole scene by not doing their foot work. So much is wrong with this case it is unbeleivable!!!! I just can't beleive that on top of greiving, my sis has to worry about possibly going to jail for the rest of her life. Sometimes even I wonder What Gives!!! I know that God must have a good reason for the happenings, and I know in my heart that something good will come out of this.
So, you see, for whatever reason your sweet little girl has been taken from you, she has served her PURPOSE IN LIFE!!!!! It's not up to us to decide what is right or wrong, but to learn from whatever situation presents itself.
I will include you in my prayers that God will grant you some kind of peace and understanding.
Flossy

By shortstuff
Posted July 2, 2009 at 12:42 pm
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Sending a warm gentle hug to you all.Im so sorry this has happened to your family:( I too,offer my prayers for you all.
I know how it feels to say that walking to the kitchen and doing regular things that were just normal being a good day.Ya it sux but thank god we can still manage to get it done somehow.
Well,I guess I will talk to you later,
Bev

By beansy
Posted July 2, 2009 at 11:51 pm
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I don't believe like a lot of you and therefore I think life gives us what it does. We deal with what we can as well as we can. I don't like it when anyone says that to me about God giving me more, etc. I do not understand how that helps me. I am the one struggling, doing the best I can do, and I do ok mostly now. There was a time when everything went wrong continuously for too many years. I remember before that time when life was good and fun. Now, although I will always struggle, I am happy again. I also believe that my life, and everyone else's life, could and may change at any minute with no notice. That's life. I hate it, I love it. I am grateful to live.

By Bikrbarb
Posted July 8, 2009 at 8:59 pm
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Thank you all so much for prayers and support. I try to pray for all of you. I know we all don't share the same beliefs but we all learn from each other and lean on each other as needed. That's comforting to me. I tried dealing with life on my own when I backslid for a number of years. I always felt like it was just me against the world. Win; loose or draw. It's so much easier now to pray, and feel the wait of the world off my shoulders and I don't have to fight the battles alone. I, too, am so grateful to live!!!!!

By MMaslek
Posted July 9, 2009 at 7:24 am
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My thoughts are with you. Tell your brother you love him but with everything going on he's going to need to find another place to stay. Your granddaughter is going to need some serious counseling. We lost my 8 yr old nephew 3 years ago & it was ... well words just don't fit. His brother has adjusted but he goes into counseling at different times for different things. Survivors guilt is very hard on a kid as well as the change in her parents. The best thing you could do is to get her a counselor who specializes in grieving asap. Thinking of you!!!! {{hugs}}

Amy

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